Relaxation Is Just As Important As Working! Agree?

Many of you are busy with numerous responsibilities during the week; the various work demands that most of you experience. Many of you are working well over forty hours a week. Then there are the multiple demands of family, children, household responsibilities and the like. Does it seem like all you do is go, go, go? And sometimes it is easy to get so used to the adrenalin of doing that you can forget how to relax and slow down.
The need for taking time to relax cannot be emphasized enough. According to Random House Webster’s College Dictionary relax can mean “to release or bring relief from the effects of tension, anxiety, etc.” And, “to become less tense, rigid or firm.” Sound good? Some of you may understand the importance of incorporating a way of relaxing into your life. However I am sure many of you find it too difficult to fit into your busy schedule.
Taking time to relax is the antidote to stress which is known to contribute to disease and general dissatisfaction in life. Relaxing on purpose slows your breathing down which helps relax your body. Your muscles have the opportunity to rest and it is good for your heart. The mental health benefits are ample. Your ability to focus, make decision and even your sleep may improve.
I understand that what is relaxing to each of you may be different. Some enjoy going to the beach, laying out in the sun and reading a book. Others find gardening relaxing. Maybe relaxing for you would be simply taking an hour nap in the middle of the day, or sitting and meditating. Or maybe you would be willing to treat yourself to a massage, facial, pedicure or acupuncture.
Although the demands of all your responsibilities are still lingering, you will be more refreshed, and I believe better equipped to handle the multiple burdens that life has for you. When you allow yourself the gift of relaxation, when you prioritize taking time for even a small amount of relaxation during your day or days off you will greatly benefit.
On your next day off or this weekend, I encourage you to allow yourself to have some genuine down time. Time when your mind is not listing the ten things you need to get done today. Time when you’re not physically moving about doing the many chores that need to get done. Time when you slow down your heart rate, breathing and movement. Time to actually do what is called-relaxing!
I encourage you to remember that you are important, that you matter and to put yourself on your own priority list. If you allow yourself the gift of relaxation this will aid you physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. You are in charge of making relaxation a part of your weekly ritual. Decide you are worth taking time to give your body, mind and spirit a well-deserved rest.

I Don’t Want to Eat My Green Beans!

Growing up I distinctly remember my mother trying to feed me those awful vegetables. I didn’t do too well with her canned string beans or cooked carrots. Of course she explained to me how important it was for me to eat my vegetables because they have lots of vitamins and nutrition that I needed. Unfortunately her reasoning did not convince me to eat what she said was good for me.

This got me to thinking about our lives as adults and how many things we know are good for us to do, yet we don’t choose to do them. I am assuming now that we are adults that most of us understand how important it is to eat our vegetables. The majority of us logically know about many other things that are also very important to our health yet for many you don’t comply with what you know to be good for you.

Today I want to focus on your physical health and a few areas that you may struggle with doing what is good for you. An important task for us all is to attend yearly physical check-ups and other recommended preventative procedures. Although I do not want to be nor mean to be sexist, I will admit that the majority of female clients, friends, acquaintances that I have are prudent about the need to attend their yearly check-ups and take the time to attend these appointments. I am sure there are exceptions to this and for these women I encourage you to consider what may be keeping you from taking care of and responsibility for your physical health.

Many of the men I know personally, or my friends’ husbands or clients seem to have some resistance to taking time for regular yearly physicals. This is of course not true for all men, but I have witnessed it often. If you are one of these men that don’t usually see a doctor I plead with you to reconsider. Ask yourself what is stopping you. Remind yourself that prevention is always best and it is a good thing when the doctor tells you all is well!

Another essential area is our eating habits. We all know how important it is to give our bodies the fuel it needs to work most effectively. In this area I hear a lot of “I know I should but…” comments. What makes this area so hard for you? Are you eating fast food often? Buying frozen food to pop in the microwave? How is it that for so many the vehicle that moves us about in this world is often treated so badly; even neglected?

Exercise is also something that is good for us. Regular exercise is good at any age and even more important as we age. Exercise helps us cardiovascularly; assists us in keeping our muscle tone; helps our metabolism; and can improve mood. I understand that many of us have excellent reasons why it is hard to fit this into our lives. Life is very hectic. However, exercise is also good for you and needs to be incorporated into your lifestyle.

I hope that this blog today will more motivate you to take responsibility for your body overall. You are given this one body to move about on this earth and it is your job to take care of that body. The healthier your body is the better you will feel in the other areas of your life. Ignoring your body puts you at great risk of suffering unnecessarily.

Mother Dearest

As I think about the month of May many meanings come to mind.  From symbolic days such as Mother’s Day and Memorial Day; to National Brain Tumor Month and Mental Health Awareness Month, to name a few.   I am going to reference some things about mother’s and our mental health.  I figure that will be a loaded topic for many!  There are many aspects to mother’s.  We can talk about the mother you each had or have, since we all were birthed by one.   The type of mother you were parented by has great impact on shaping you into the person you are today.  If you were blessed enough to be raised by a loving, consistent, nurturing mother then you were granted one of your many birth rights.  What I mean by that is that each and every one of you merits such an experience with the mother who raised you.  You were born with the right to receive that from your mother.  You were and are good and needed to experience unconditional love from your mother.  If you received that from the earliest stages of development, then there is a good chance you have a core belief about yourself that tells you that you are ok, even good.  You probably believe you are loveable.  It is much easier to manage the rough roads of life when you have the core belief that you are good and lovable.  The impact of the mother’s reactions and responses to her child are crucial to the child’s future emotional development.  While many factors contribute to your wellbeing, the role of “mother” cannot be discounted.

If your experience with the mother of your childhood was not so consistent and loving, a scar is often left within that is difficult to heal.  If your mother was critical, harsh, neglectful, abusive or abandoned you in one way or another; often you feel bad, or defective.  This can make you feel like something is wrong with you.  Maybe this isn’t something you are amply conscious of enough to put into words; and for many of you, you are very aware of what I am speaking about.  The longer one goes through life without recognizing the negative effects that have been created by the mothering you received the more your present life is guided by your negative learning’s.  This injured belief affects every aspect of your life, from the relationships you choose to be involved in to your own personal self-care.  And, what for me is a great concern, is that you can accidently pass these negative core beliefs onto any children you may have or raise.

The good news is that healing can occur at any point in your life.  Certainly, the younger you are when you begin the restorative and recovery process, the better.  It is your birth right to feel better about yourself.  While this brief blog in no way covers all the ways one can be injured in their formative years; and certainly doesn’t discuss all the ways we can grow and heal, my hope is that it will be a reminder to you that it is never too late to feel better about yourself.  If you were/are blessed to have a more positive experience with your mother then be sure to celebrate that wonderful blessing.  If you were one of the many who were parented by a mother who was too wounded herself to parent you well, then please know that there is hope.  There is always hope.  Seek healing for yourself.  The resources for this healing are plentiful.  Chapter Five in my book, BE HAPPY NOW, is a good avenue to begin the self-nurturing process.












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