Are Your Attitudes Helping You?

Attitude is the composition of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. The American Heritage Dictionary defines attitude as “a state of mind or feeling with regard to some matter.” Another definition says that attitude can be defined as a positive or negative evaluation of people, objects, events, activities, ideas, or just about anything in your environment (Zimbardo et al. 1999, 745). Often you think you know what your attitude about something is, but often your behaviors better direct you to what your underlying attitude really is on a certain matter.

Changing one’s attitude so your life goes in the direction you want takes some attention. It involves digging deeper into your subconscious mind so you can bring to the surface attitudes that are holding you back in life or that are not in alignment with your value system. It is important that you are in charge of the attitudes you hold. Many of your attitudes stem from past learning’s and people that were influential to you in your formative years. Often one is unconscious of this transference. So start paying attention to your attitudes. Listen to what you say about various life events. Pay attention. You could even try writing down different attitudes you think you hold about various life concerns. The important thing here is to become more aware of the attitudes influencing you and be sure you like them. You choose your attitudes whether consciously or unconsciously.

Many believe that what you put out comes back to you in many ways. A positive attitude from you tends to produce a positive attitude toward you. A negative from you, conversely, often produces the same toward you. If you put out acceptance and warmth, you tend to attract the same. Positive energy is attracted to positive energy. For those of you that are more positive, the negative just doesn’t feel good. You will be able to attract more encouraging energy and communicate better when your view of yourself and your world is more affirmative.
This may all sound too simple. But in essence, it is true. Think about the people in your life who are more positive and your reactions to them. What are your reactions to those in your life that tend to be more negative? This is similar to the cup-half-full-versus-half-empty stance to life. You know how it feels to be around each of these types of people.

Having a more productive attitude doesn’t mean you won’t still encounter obstacles. However, the way you approach these obstacles will be more proactive and self-directed. The better your attitude, the better you will communicate. When you view others in a more positive light, you will treat them in a more respectful way. This will lead you to having more fulfilling relationships. As you rewrite some of your attitudes, the energy you send forth into the universe will likely be different and yield more positive interactions and experiences.


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