Ways To Stop Sabotaging Yourself – Tip Three

I shared previously about taking time to pay attention to your thoughts; your inner dialogue. Tip one involved changing your negative thoughts to more positive and encouraging thoughts. The second way to help you feel more self-directed is to know what you value most and set goals that are in alignment with these values.

Thirdly, pay attention to your behaviors. We have all heard the saying “actions speak louder than words.” Well, what are your actions saying about you? Do you like what your behaviors are saying? Are your actions in harmony with your values? I am often surprised by how many people never ask their self this question. While it is great to know what is important to you it is equally imperative to have continuity between your values and your behaviors. A key element to stop self-sabotaging is to behave in ways that emerge from your values. If you don’t take responsibility for how you are living your life it will be hard to feel satisfied. You may on occasion (or by accident) feel happy, however, it will usually be short lived. The best way to insure you achieve the greatest satisfaction out of life is to behave intentionally.

Many clients tell me they put their head in the sand to avoid dealing with reality. This may help them avoid some temporary discomfort, however, the long-term suffering tends to be worse than it would have been to just live with their eyes wide open and take the necessary actions required to create the life they want. When your behaviors are not a reflection of your values where is the peace? Where is the happiness? I encourage you to take your head out of the sand and live on purpose!

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